Any relationship where there is a struggle to get “what I want” and for the other to get “what they want” creates a lot of suffering and lack. In fact, it is much easier to meet my own needs rather than to try to meet your needs so you can meet my needs.
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The idea of identifying and working toward a “want for us” grows us as individuals and supports the deeper meaning and opportunity for love in marriage and committed relationships.
Read MoreWhen we are faced with another person's hostility, we typically get quiet, perhaps explaining or defending, or we push back with anger of our own.
Read MoreIn my coaching/mentoring practice, I have been working with more couples. First, for a while working individually on personal and relationship issues, but lately we have been getting to a place where to grow we must all three talk together. Then we dance between individual calls and couples calls.
Read MoreWe don’t need to struggle in our relationships like we do. The key is so simple.
Read MoreIt's important that we learn to work with our loneliness because it can deeply affect us mentally, emotionally and even physically.
Read MoreThe people in our lives have a huge impact on us. As you get clearer about how you want your life to be, who you want to be in the world, start finding people who bring up your average, who inspire and encourage your journey, not just directly, but by who they are and what they are doing with their lives and in the world.
Read MoreI often see in prospective clients that they may very much want the results of mentoring like growth, clarity, action, happiness, letting go, goals, etc. but the fears are greater: exposure, vulnerability, potential for disappointment or failure.
Read MoreTruth is a fact, it is data, and it is measurable, collectable, recordable, and experiential. The opposite of truth is opinion, judgment, and interpretation. A simple example would be the difference between someone saying to another person “what you said is hurtful” vs. “when you said (x) I felt hurt”, the first interprets the others intention and the second is simply reporting the external and internal data.
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