Inquiry Method Squared

In my coaching/mentoring practice, I have been working with more couples. First, for a while working individually on personal and relationship issues, but lately we have been getting to a place where to grow we must all three talk together. Then we dance between individual calls and couples calls.This innovation has led to an additional layer of benefit and insight for everyone. While Inquiry Method is powerful on an individual level, it is even more so with relationships. What I see happening is that when we get into the conversation with both partners we begin to get not only the internal reflection of each person but now we also include “other,” the external reflection. For example, if I’m working with a coach and reporting about how my week has been and what’s been going on in my relationship, my mentor is only getting the internal report that comes in through my filters. On the other hand, if my spouse or partner comes into the conversation all of a sudden my mentor gets unfiltered information that allows them to cross reference and cross check what I’ve been telling them. This expanded view is invaluable.When we receive the external reflection, we have even more awareness to work with. This can be experienced as seeing ourselves more clearly or conversely in seeing how our internal processes work with others judgments and projections. I love this new work because we are getting into the soup in a new way.In every case, this process of Inquiry Method produces more alignment and more love in each and in the relationship that is so exciting to see.This same phenomenon is in effect in Corporate Renewals; clients that have participated realize how much their internal self informs their business and the renewal is a profound reflection of what they are manifesting in the world.What all of this tells me is how powerful our relationships and work can be as a tool for transformation when we are willing to bring inquiry to them.Can you let the challenges in your relationship guide you to being the person who wants to emerge?Are you willing to go through the discomfort of facing the blocks you have to honor yourself and your relationship?Would you be willing to see what is happening in your business as a reflection of your inner world and use those awareness’s to become the person who can lead the business you want to have?