We are All Worthy of Love
Most people in our culture do not understand the context for what I call self-worth, simply because our culture does not make a distinction between self-worth and self-esteem. Because the Inquiry Method™ acknowledges and values this distinction, I have created my own definition. While self-esteem is the quality of being proud of oneself, self-worth goes even beyond this. It is the quality of truly and wholeheartedly believing you are worthy of love, whether self-love or universal love.A lack of self-worth can take on many different forms; it can be feeling like we do not belong anywhere, or feeling like we do not deserve care, love, or happiness. When we do not feel worthy of having meaningful relationships, we begin to pull apart from others and from life. I have found that most people who have trouble recognizing their self-worth have one thing in common: during important developmental points in their life, they received conditional love, as opposed to unconditional love. Based on that, they began to internalize the idea that the love of others is something that should be earned. Similarly, this same scenario can also lead to lack of self-love. If this idea of conditional love is ingrained in a person, they begin to only love themselves when they are performing well, or their life is going great, or they are being acknowledged.The way to fix this is by acknowledging that there is nobody with a broken self-worth. Underneath everything, underneath all the coping mechanisms and perceptions, everyone has an unbroken self-worth. We are all whole and unbroken. The way to do this and stimulate growth in this area we must is by simply recognizing or acknowledging our worthiness. Just like we do when removing emotional pain in the Mountain Experience, we can teach ourselves that we have a strong self-worth and the capacity to love ourselves unconditionally. This is part of the process we teach and begin at the Freedom Experience.Much love,Kyle