Our minds are constantly making up stories about what things mean. Particularly about what other people’s behavior means about us. What other people do is rarely about us, it is about them.
Read MoreWhat creates life, vitality, and productivity in any system, individual or group is the movement of energy. The biggest problems occur when there is stagnant energy, think of a log jam in a river. In all systems stagnant energy creates a back up of energy that shows up and can be identified in each individual in the form of stress, anxiety, frustration, depression, suppression, worry… These are all markers for stagnant energy.
Read MoreIn finding retreat sites for experiences I used to be a hard negotiator. I would get the price down to the least amount, the best deal I could get. I just figured that it was good business and I was a good negotiator. Then when I got there I was surprised about a negative attitude, problems, and issues.
Read MoreIn physics, at a very small scale, they have found that the act of observation impacts the outcome and the data produced. The same is true in your business.As a leader, what you notice, what you pay attention to is your most powerful leadership tool.
Read MoreAs I have spoken before, the Inquiry Leadership model approaches leadership from the idea of mentoring and developing people. In this model the primary relationship between a leader and employee is as a mentor. In this view the mentee is the hero and the leader is the supporter. I like to think of the relationship between King Arthur and Merlin.
Read More
What is your reaction to being controlled?I can always detect control, because when my system recognizes control, I resist. It may be subtle, but I can feel the beginning of a sense of resistance. To free myself from this resistance to being controlled, I simply give myself a choice about what I want to do. How can you tell if you are being controlling? You will feel or experience resistance from the other person. This is 100% effective.
Read MoreThere are two aspects to the Inquiry Method perspective. One has to do with our external orientation, our interaction with life. This is the externalized aspect of inquiry. When we use inquiry to interact with life, we approach the world with curiosity and wonder.
Read MoreI confess I haven’t read the whole book sent to me by a client but I love the premise of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.
Read MoreNot possible. How would it change your perspective if you walked through life knowing that you cannot change anyone else?
Read MoreInquiry Method is about getting in alignment with truth. Sometimes it is an objective truth, the truth about “what is,” and we will never be effective if we are resisting “what is” (that which will not change).
Read More