Seduction

Do you use energy to get people to like you?  Do you charm?  Do you smile before you feel pleased or happy?We all have a seducer inside, but we all pay a big price when we use seduction.If I put out energy to draw you in, if I convince you to be my friend or customer or employee or boss, I have created a contract of pleasing that I will have to maintain.  From now on I have to keep pleasing, charming, giving, adapting, etc., or risk the relationship, and I am back to square one with you.On the other hand, if I am authentic in myself, if I don’t put any energy into drawing you in, and you still come forward with interest in friendship or business or employment, there is no contract that I have to maintain; the relationship is held together by natural forces.  I no longer have to work at the relationship, I experience the actual connection based on the truth about everyone in the relationship.This is not a passive dynamic, it is just that I am not trying to get anyone to like me, or want me or hire me or work for me.  I am very dynamic in expressing myself, my art, my perspective, my play, my truths, not from pleasing but from authentic, self-expression.Plus not seducing is simply more effective.When I was less secure, and despite the value I could provide, I often felt I had to seduce people to work with me.  Even as a company we used to work very hard at enrolling people into the Mountain Experience. It was such an illusion.  I now realize that trying to seduce people into anything gives the wrong message. The implication is that if I have to seduce you, the value is not very high.Now I realize that just by being me and expressing my value in whatever I do I am that people want a connection with me.  As a company, I now know that just by creating great experiences, sharing messages like these, speaking with people about what they want, that is enough.