Healing Relationships

In my experience our anger can rarely hold up to honest inquiry into the other person. Once we see the situation from their perspective, through their eyes our perception of events or circumstances takes on a whole new view.  People do not often act from malice or forethought, mostly they are doing their best, often times with information or a perspective that we lack. In working with conflict there are few conflicts than can stand direct inquiry.  It is deeply sad when these kinds of differences of perspective taint important relationships over long periods of time. It takes courage and vulnerability to discover and hear the truth; this is the beginning of forgiveness and growth for the person who is courageous enough to inquire. Healing does not just happen it is created.