What You Want

Here is a huge language/communication upgrade you can do that will make a big difference in your life, internal and external.In our culture we habitually say what we don’t want, what we don’t like.  It is safer to be against things than for them.In fact it takes more courage to say what we want, but the benefits are enormous.Try it out. Catch yourself as much as possible when you say what you don’t want.  Do this in every place in your life.  Challenge yourself, instead, to speak only in terms of what you want.You can also practice with other people. When they say what they don’t want, ask them what they want.  This will clean up a lot of communication.As you begin to master this, turn it on in your internal dialogue.What changes for you in speaking what you want?  Say some “don’t wants” and then their “want” counterparts, and just feel how they feel in your mouth, in your brain. What is the feeling difference?Try some “don’t wants” and “wants” on other people, and gauge the differing reactions. Have a week-long want/don’t want experiment, and let me know what you find out.