Where Do I Look?

Approaching life through the Inquiry Method provides a basic place to begin with any issue that may arise.We are tempted to say, “This person did this” or “They shouldn’t have done that,” or we try to explain how or why it is not about us.  We are tempted to explain or defend ourselves.  Much of this explaining and defending came about as we were growing up, when we witnessed others who did not want to take responsibility for what was happening, and so they tried to pass it on.A lot of our energy goes into deflecting blame or responsibility.  We engage in a kind of “hot potato” blame passing game.In Inquiry, we always look first to ourselves.  We do not look to blame ourselves or anyone else.  We inquire so that we can recognize our patterns which increases our understanding of ourselves. What patterns, beliefs, pain, attitudes, etc., are you contributing to what is happening in your life right now?  Blame is an outward movement; self-reflection is an inward movement.As we begin the Inquiry Method and continue the work, we come to understand that whatever is happening, it is always, always, always, always, always, always… about us.  This is where true inquiry begins.If we can find that the source of any issue begins with us, then that is the good news, because we can always do something about that.  (In Inquiry Method, we recognize we can never change another person).