Blind Spot Inquiry
I did this the other day.I felt I had a blind spot in certain kinds of friendships.I selected a friend, whom I knew was grounded, insightful, and thoughtful, and whom I felt would tell me the truth.I asked him specifically about my behavior, describing the situation and my feelings and requested that he give me feedback.It was extremely useful. With his feedback I could use my coach to delve deeper into what was behind the behavior and begin to work to change that pattern.What I discovered was that in certain situations I was tense and that the tension was reflected in the relationships I wanted to foster. Having found the underpinnings to that pattern, I am now practicing being relaxed, open, and easy in those situations; it has made a huge difference.What blind spots do you have? Don’t know? Ask someone you trust.If we are committed to a path of growth we want to surround ourselves with people that we can have these kind of conversations with.